Do you find yourself attracting the same kind of dates or relationships over and over again? They may look different, it seems different but then it starts feeling familiar and they start reminding you of an ex?
Everything is energy, including our relationships. They are an exchange and combining of energies. This may be a bit much for you, but I won’t get too deep into it.
When you meet someone and have a connection, it’s an actual connection. If you have sex, then you’re bound to that person, even if it was just a one-time thing.
Sex is a very intimate exchange of energy. Unfortunately, we’ve been conditioned to see it as only physical pleasure or a complete sin. There is beauty in sex, with the right person. I’ll talk more about that a bit later, for now, I want to just focus on connections with people.
Have you heard the quote some people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime? That kind of mirrors the types of relationships that you can have with people.
On the surface level your friend, family, or lover may seem great. Then over time, you may find yourself being drained, in a bunch of drama and you have no clue what happened.
We can get lost in a relationship when their energy takes over. It’s hard to say no, you feel something is off, but you can’t break away because they're your friend.
Be honest have you stayed in a relationship that you know wasn’t good for you? It doesn’t matter what type of relationship. I’ve done it and I know I’m not the only one.
I’ve held on to friends that weren’t friends at all. When I thought I was clear of the drama and negativity, I attracted more toxic friends only in a different form. I couldn’t understand why I kept getting caught up with people who were no good for me.
When you feel your relationships are on repeat, like you keep attracting the same kind of people or situations generally that means there is a lesson somewhere that you need to learn.
It doesn’t mean you deserve to be mistreated, just that there is something to learn from the situation so that you can grow and evolve. I had to realize that I deserved better quality friends and that I needed to spend more of my time and energy on me. I started saying no, cutting people off, and things improved for me drastically.
I slipped up and reached back out thinking that I was harsh because clearly I hadn’t learned my lesson and I got screwed over again. I knew for sure this person didn’t belong in my life.
I talk about relationships because the people around us have the biggest impact on our lives. I’ve had friends that would purposely mislead me just to see me fail. I’ve had friends that smiled in my face only to talk about me behind my back. The quality of your friendships has a profound impact on your life, are are just as important as your romantic relationships.
No matter the type of relationship if it is filled with drama, negativity, confusion, pain, neglect, or is draining you it is not a healthy relationship. These kinds of relationships fall into one of two categories, Low Vibrational or Karmic Connection.
These relationships really don’t serve you, they could be considered seasonal. Some people get stuck on this level and never progress. This is the friend that only calls you when she needs someone to vent to or hang out with.
Or the guy with the crazy good sex game that lives in his mama’s basement, not doing anything with his life. The connection is great at first, but there is no substance. These kinds of relationships won’t be meaningful. If you are looking for depth, then you’ll have to start requiring more of yourself and others.