We live in a new age. Things are different for my girls as they were for me. Things were different when my parents grew up, as they were for me. Being a Parent really shifts your perspective. Things are so different. There are different issues, threats, ‘pop culture', and ways of parenting, and let's not forget the internet!
A host of devices that grant access to the world wide web, which provides a constant supply of information and stimulation to little minds. I do what I can at home to minimize that access, but there is no guarantee that will protect my child. School is where our little angels meet other children, that may or may not be little angels. School is where our parental muscle is tested, and also our FAITH!! School is also where your child may learn things you never imagined they would be exposed to.
Early on, I decided that I would be honest with my little one about situations. I would rather her hear the truth from me, so we can discuss it and I can educate her on the matter. I definitely don't want her to hear it through the grapevine. It would be much easier if I could tell her the world was only made of rainbows and gumdrops, filled with unicorns, glitter, cotton candy, and fairy dust. Filled with the sparkle of crystals and gemstones, happiness and no danger or people that didn't mean well. I could totally create a fantasy land and have fun doing so rather than dealing with reality.
By being honest I can share the beauty of the world along with truths and guidance that will help protect my girls and empower them to make smart decisions.
I think honesty is the best policy when it comes to raising my girls. I want them to be independent thinkers.
Why I Choose Truth
I have been judged for being honest with them and having open lines of communication. It didn't make sense then, still doesn't make sense now. There are plenty of conversations that we have not had, but if my girls ask me a question, you better believe I'm going to answer it to make sure they are getting the truth and have an understanding of the situation.
If that means we have to go to the library or internet to research we do. At times, sugar coating may be required like when it comes to certain family dynamics or things that may cast a bad light on people they love. Some stories aren't pretty and it's not fair, nor is it my job to place judgment about others in their minds.
So sugar coating is done when necessary and with discretion.
Don't judge me because I want my children to be empowered and able to think independently, creatively, as well as critically. I have learned that to teach independent thinking and the use of sound reasoning and judgment are more important than dictating the color of polish she chooses to put on her nails. My rule is nothing too grown up and have fun creating funky nail designs. I'm more worried about her ability to think and function in this mixed up world, because not everyone has pure heart.