are were bittersweet for me. Being a single woman and mother has its challenges. Throw in the fact that I'm an empath and don't care for the meaning of most commercial holidays, is the perfect storm for awkward times of the year. For me it's time to go within and decompress, with a very social teen and toddler, that's notalways doable.
What I love about the holiday season is the good food, the great company, and time off of work. For me, it's a reflective time of the year when the light of humanity shines it's brightest. No matter your religious beliefs, there's nothing like the Spirit of Christmas to bring out the best in people. I also love cooking! When my daughter and I can create magic in the kitchen together, it's always a great day.
Not everyone is blessed with holiday bliss. Loss of loved ones, toxic family members, depression, trauma, social anxiety, and downright loneliness plague so many people. There are so many reasons why you may not be feeling Christmas Cheer this time of the year, and that is totally okay.
I used to be there. Holiday's were a very raw, tender, and painful point for me. One a terrifying night of my life happened on Thanksgiving weekend, in 2005. A night of fun turned into a night being surrounded by police officers trying to understand why I felt like I got hit by a bus. Domestic violence and missing my child became the earmark of holidays for me.
Before I learned about essential oils and meditation, I just sat with the hurt. I cried a lot. I drank. I did whatever I could to just get over it, not the pain but the day. I didn't have anything cheerful to share for the holidays. I hated faking smiles and reciting ‘Happy Holidays' as if I cared. I had no holiday cheer! I don't even like cold weather, and the hardest of all holiday seasons are right when it's too cold out for me. I felt trapped. Literally like a block of ice. It was the worst. The people around me, my family and friends I don't know if they even realized what I went through. I am beyond thankful that I got through it all, and am here to tell my story and support you.
That was a long time ago, and lots of healing and growth later I can say that holidays are semi-bittersweet for me. Just like bittersweet chocolate, in the right recipe, they are the perfect ingredient. I did a lot of reflecting and that is how Holiday Cheer was born. I wanted to make something supportive, uplifting and energizing for anyone who may not be the most cheerful this time of the year. I created an essential oil blend with the energy of Peppermint, the cheer of Wild Orange, and the calm of Lavender. It's the perfect blend not only for this season but anytime you need a boost of cheer!
I was there and I get it. Holiday's can suck, but you don't have to let that be your story. I eventually found my own holiday bliss by going out to eat, getting all dolled up and attending events. I also would spend it with my best friend who always makes me feel welcome and loved, no matter what!
Making Spirits Bright
Thanksgiving and Christmas no longer remind me of where I have been. I see the journey I made and it amazes me that I was able to rise out of a place of hurt, to embrace Holiday Cheer once again. I am at a place where I realize I need to create my own meaning for holidays. I love the lights, decor, and splendor that come along with the holidays and I also love quiet time, ritual, healing work, and readings.
For 2018, I want to do something totally different. I want to Shine Bright and celebrate all of the days and moments. I want to have Holiday Cheer All. Year. Long!