You don’t know how awesome you are, downplaying yourself. Not knowing how to take compliments. Shying away from your power and hiding from your successes and accomplishments.
Year of Yes
Shonda Rhimes talks about this in her amazing book Year of Yes.
Why do we display shame when we should own our power and accomplishments?
I have a couple of thoughts on this:
- You aren’t taught to
- It’s not something that you're are used to
- You want to be nice
- You don’t believe it
Check out her powerful TEDTalk. I shared it with the ladies in my tribe during a book club meeting where we read and discussed this book. If you haven’t read it you definitely should. This book is going on my quarterly reading list. In fact, it’s the reason I started a quarterly reading list. So far it’s the only book that I have committed reading to every 3 months.
Believing in Yourself is Hard to Do
I may touch on the 1st three reasons later, but I really want to focus on the last reason. You don’t believe in yourself. There are tons of reasons for this, the main reason is that all your life you have been told, by yourself or others you are deficient. If you pay attention to your self-talk I bet she’s a nasty, wicked, voice that makes you feel really small. That is not the voice of self-love. That is fear and hurt talking, but we readily listen to it.
Being stuck in a cycle of hurt and shame because we lack self-love, confidence, and worth because you can’t see through to who you truly are, is the reality for many women.
In a Facebook group, I saw a comment on an article about someone getting help to find themselves and about self-love. On the post, someone commented, “No one can help you love yourself.” There was a further discussion where many said that only prayer/God can help you with that. This really stuck out to me, especially as a coach, who helps women dealing with toxic relationships discover the power of self-love and healthy relationships. Here’s the thing that’s entirely not true.
Coaches Can Help You with Self-Love!
All the coaching, support, and love in the world will not make you love yourself unless you are open to it and willing to do the work. I became a coach to help heal and you love yourself after experiencing trauma in life. Spiritual Love Coaching allows me to help you see things in yourself that you may not see.
The people and things that you are used to could be causing you to lose sight of yourself. It’s familiar to you, so you’ve become accustomed to it, even if it hurts. I’ve worked through this process to fall in love with myself, so I have some shortcut, strategies, and tools that can help you make that connection too.
Coaching is a Gift!
God gave people specific gifts. Being that we are made in his image, we are essentially divine beings capable of great things. One of those things is helping others. We have the ability to help people, that is what we are here for. To make a difference, in our own unique way. My way is to help women heal their heart from toxic relationships, restore self-love, and develop healthy relationships.
There is always someone that can help you with every step of life. All the help in the world won’t make you change unless you are open to that change. I am The Spiritual Love Healer for a reason. I have a purpose, and I know that my purpose is to help people when it comes to love and relationships. That is what I am dedicating my life to doing and I’m so proud of it!
Spiritual Love Connection
Find out how Spiritual Love Coaching and Healing can help you release the past and open your heart to love during a free consultation where we can connect heart to heart.