Do you focus on yourself enough?
It might seem like a strange question. There is something of an attitude in modern culture to see focusing on the self to be an inherently bad thing. It brings to mind echoes of selfishness; as if by looking inward we are neglecting the world around us.
When you're examining your life and how you treat yourself, then it's an important block to overcome. Caring for yourself should not only be a priority for you, but for the people around you. If you are not at your best, then the way you can help your friends and family is going to be impacted.
One of the biggest areas we tend to overlook is our self-esteem.
We know that self-esteem – particularly among women – is at an all-time low. There are various reasons suggested for this. The constant advertising showing what seems to be perfect, possibly photoshopped figures. The rise of social media has been blamed, as we compare ourselves with others – and comparison is the thief of happiness. Or perhaps it's just modern society and never having enough time to particularly care about these things.
Giving yourself an esteem boost and improving your self love is a vital part of finding your way to emotional well-being. While a personal development course is the biggest, most positive step on this road you can take – there are some things you can do right now. The road to finding your confidence has many stops along it, so getting started as soon as possible will make all the difference.
3 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem
#1 – Use Affirmations
Negative self-talk is one of the most damaging ways to deal with your own thoughts. We are all capable of it, and it's a habit that becomes so ingrained that it seems impossible to get out of it.
Physical (“I like the way that my hair is looking today”)
Mental (“I am proud of how I responded to that stressful situation at work”)
Spiritual (“I am a peaceful, loving person”)
In a sea of negative self-talk, affirmations can begin to poke through like a ray of sunshine.
#2 – Beat Down Comparisons and Envy
Comparing yourself and your life to others is destructive.
If you find yourself confronted with feelings of envy, then you have to confront them.
Say to yourself: “I can see that this person has something that I wish I had. However, I have…” and insert a minimum of three things you have and are grateful for.
#3 – Count Your Blessings
The above is a starter for this, but counting your blessings should not just be in response to something negative.
Once a week, write down all of the things you are grateful for and all the things you have done well. Then file them away; if you're ever feeling low, a quick look at past triumphs will boost your confidence naturally.