Why is your breaking point so high?
Every woman has a breaking point Keri Hilson
But some of you have that point set to hell and high water. And that Needs. To. Stop. Now.
You cannot set your expectations low and your breaking point high and expect greatness.
I’ve been there and I am coming from a place of love when I tell you, stop accepting the BS.
Lower Your Breaking Point
Don’t accept behavior that you feel is unacceptable in any way from any man.
For example. Now that I am dating again, I decided that I will not engage in text message conversations. If I give out my phone number it’s so that I can get a phone call. Not a text.
I get the first text and say hey if you want to talk give me a call. After that no responses.
My breaking point is a man that will only text.
After that we can be friends. Period.
Why, because I deserve better and I know there is a man that enjoys live conversation just like me.
Yes that means I will let go of a lot of “potential mates” but I don’t care because they don’t have what I need.
What’s a High Breaking Point?
Staying with a man who is cheating on you. Then leaving once his side chick confronts you.
Staying with a man who is cheating on you, then leaving when you find out he got a baby on the way.
Always driving to see your man and letting him go because he left you stranded on the side of the road.
Being the one always paying for dates, bills, or whatever, then leaving cause he can’t help you put gas in the car or you leave after losing everything.
Staying with a man who insults your intelligence, then leaving because your finally tired of crying yourself to sleep at night.
Dating someone for years who refuses to put a title or clear commitment on something, then calling it quits once you see him calling another girl wifey on Instagram.
Red Flags are Your Friend
Think of all the many red flags there are in the start of a new relationships. The ones we overlook because he’s cute, seems smart, is well spoken, dresses nice…Those should also now be considered breaking points.
Red flags exist for a reason. Be empowered to recognize them now instead of in hindsight after going through hell with a man. Pay attention to the signs.
Communicate your Needs
Here’s the thing with breaking points, you have to let him know. It’s up to you to set the standard for how you want to be treated. Don’t say, “Here’s a list of my breaking points and if you don’t meet them I’m out.” Please don’t do that. Instead course correct.
If one of your needs is that he has to open doors for you. Let that be known. If he slides through the door in front of you leaving you to catch it, say hey I’d appreciate if you would open the door for me.
Next time if he opens the door, let him know you are grateful. If he doesn’t remind him. The third time, it’s pretty clear he’s not respecting your needs. So now you have a decision to make because you’ve reached your breaking point.
Lead with Love
Decide what you will and will not accept and do not let bad behavior become the norm. Demand the respect and care that you deserve and desire.
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