How did you learn to love yourself and others? Love isn’t always something that is taught or modeled and it’s something that we may need to re-learn as adults.
I have been consciously staying centered in love and it has been an eye-opening and transformational process. It’s soooo easy to be unloving! I am learning through love each day and am grateful for the wisdom and experiences that come along with it.
Choose to Learn Through Love
I’m moving so you can see things are coming off of the bookcase. I’ve got stuff everywhere. So it’s a whole process that I’m not too thrilled about, but I did want to talk to you about the card I pulled this morning which was, “I Choose To Learn Through Love”, which I posted on Instagram. So if you’re not following me there, you should!
I thought this was a really beautiful card because one of the things I ask people, especially when I talk about self love, is “who taught you how to love yourself” and chances are nobody has ever taught us really what loving ourselves is, what that looks like and why we should do it.
So if no one is teaching us how to love ourselves, who is teaching us how to love each other? A lot of times we will have it modeled, but it’s not necessarily taught in the same way that we learned other things growing up.
Staying Centered In Love
So this card really came at a great time. I choose to learn through love because I set an intention that I was going to stay centered in love. So every day throughout the day I do a quick heart centering meditation and just really made sure that I am coming from a place of love in everything that I do.
In doing that, it made me realize all the ways how easy it is to not be loving. Like right, driving down the highway and traffic. Dealing with people at work. It’s so easy to come out of a space of love because we’re not used to being there.
So, you know, as I’m doing my own loving work, I share the things that I learn and the things that spirit guides me to come to understand. And so that’s one of the things, love is something that has to be learned.
Love Starts at Home
And as a mom, I’m in a good position because I’m able to teach that to my children. So if we are instilling ourselves and our children with love, that will stamp out a lot of the confidence and self esteem issues, a lot of the hatred and negativity that we see going on; but it’s something that we absolutely have to choose.
It doesn’t come innately to everyone. Some people are gifted where they have, very loving backgrounds and environments so that they are just kind of automatically rooted in love. But most people don’t have that, we’re not always in the best environments that will cultivate love.
What’s in Your Love Bank?
There’s this thing I call a Love Bank, which is basically the level of love you have in your life. So when children are born, they just think everything they do is amazing. They have a full Bank of Love. I’m Savvi, she’ll be three in a few weeks and she loves to show me all the amazing little things that she can do. Even if it’s making a mess on my floor to her, it’s great. It’s something new and depending on how I react to what she is showing me, that is kind of what determines whether a deposit goes into her love bank or whether or withdrawal comes out of it.
So it’s in our interactions with other people where we start to judge ourselves and start to feel like we aren’t perfect, that we have issues that, we’re not lovable and things like that.
Learning How To Love
We have to choose to learn through love again at some point if we want to stop the cycles of hurt in our lives and that can show up in many different ways.
I really just wanted to share that quick message. I really love. This came from, The Universe Has Your Back, deck by Gabrielle Bernstein. These are really beautiful cards that just give a loving boost of guidance at any point through the day.
Hopefully, I will be moved soon so things will be settled and back to normal. I’m really excited about moving. I’m also moving into my office and moving home. So yeah, it’s not fun. I don’t like moving. The good news is there are these amazing people in the world who I think are angels called movers and they do all the heavy lifting.
I can’t wait to show you everything that I’ve been working on. So let me know if you are choosing to learn through love and what that looks like for you.
And if you want to continue the conversation then I invite you to join me in the Spiritual Love Circle where we talk about all things love, life, & relationships.
So I will see you in the Spiritual Love Circle.