I've be been dealing with this guy and at first, everything was great. He told me he loves me and now he isn’t calling like he used to. He’s a good guy and I know he’s been going through some stuff but why isn’t he spending time with me?
I don't like getting questions like these, but it's a common one that women have. There could be some legit reasons as to why he isn't calling, but at the end of the day they are excuses.
Two things to keep in mind:
- No response is a response
- People make time for what's important to them
At this point, I would ask you how does him not calling make you feel? Do you deserve this type of treatment? If you have been going through things would you block out a person you say you love?
If it doesn't feel good, it's time to let it go. Not saying you won't ever hear from him, but right now you are using precious time and energy worrying about someone who doesn't have you as a key person in their life.
When someone ghosts you or starts treating you differently, pay attention. If a man wants to spend time with you he will. He will make time for you if you are important to him. Maybe he does have a lot going on in his life, but it's his responsibility to communicate that to you. Communication is key to a healthy relationship.
If contact has decreased or cut off completely, chances are it's intentional and not something you should work yourself up over. When relationships start to break down, we immediately start to think something is wrong with us, or that we did something to cause this. I don't want you to get into that mind frame.
Pay attention to his actions or lack thereof and let those speak for him. Focus on you. Meet someone new. Maybe he will reach back out and at that time you can decide if you want to allow him back into your space. For now Love, it is what it is. Allow it to be what it is without attaching or blaming yourself for how things played out.
Unfortunately, it happens sometimes. Try not to see it as a loss, and view it as the opportunity to meet someone who will communicate with you and values you.